There will be days in your daughter's life when she will feel, inadequate, unloved and unworthy....
For those kind of Days... do her upbringing in a way that...
She remembers... 'whose daughter' she is and she pull her chin up and straighten her crown
Are you blessed with girl children? If yes, you are greatly fortunate!
In Islam, there are hadiths of the Prophet (s.a.w.) peace and blessing be upon him) about raising girls which are beautiful and amazing. Girl children come with great rewards and blessings. If you offer care, love, support and education to your girl child, Paradise awaits you.
Reference to few Hadiths - https://aboutislam.net/shariah/hadith/hadith-collections/5-hadiths-girl-children/
At a time when baby girls were deemed a source of shame, even buried alive, the Prophet came to rectify this grave wrong.
He fought the infamous practices prevalent at the time: girl abuse, humiliation and infanticide.
Even today, his words are still relevant and much needed.
If we talk about current state of women and girls it's no less bad then it was earlier... Still giving birth to a girl is thought of as a huge responsibility and burden....
The time a girl is born, parents are now and then gifted with comments which are detrimental to parents' well-being as well as to the girl child's while she is growing up.
Still, many parents do their girl's upbringing in a way that she can grow up to be an adequate housewife, who takes care of her husband and family.
Just not in Islam, in most of the religion the women's role has been more about house hold, giving birth and taking care of people in her family.
Generations by generations women's are being told what their roles are and what they should do and not do... that their home is their husband's house... and that they should have patience and else they will be called bitches if they don't adhere these societal rules...
The psyche of our society runs on this! On this in-secure; scared consciousness
I am not a feminist, neither I am anti- feminist.
All, I say is what a person wants out of her life cannot be defined by others. If the creator would have wanted things like this, why he would have made every single person on this earth different including males?
And, instead of feeding insecurity to your girl's mind. Grow her up in a way that she understands what is right and wrong. Give her the capability and power of discriminating between what is not good for her. Provide her a cushion where she can fall back if things go wrong.
Don't take away that cushion from her life by disowning her or demeaning her, if things doesn't works out the way you thought will do in her life!
Provide her that confidence that she is no less than any other male out there....
Being a father to a girl is not easy, she becomes the targets of others who wants to hurt you... because she is the heart of your life.
A daughter knows how much you love her... and that is why you put those restrictions sometimes.... to save her because the world is really bad out there...
Don't hide her just because of your insecurities, to save her from those vultures out there!
Instead make her capable of seeing those red alarms and give her the strength to win her own battles.
With an aim that even if she looses; she has you as the anchor to her life....
But, love doesn't means to make someone weak, either be that person's strength.
Being a daughter's father; is a brave thing....
She will make mistakes...
She will have bad days....
But she will always have your parenting as her strength...
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